A curious look at the harder parts of being human
Essays on emotional growth, relationships, repair, grief,
identity, and the complicated work of being human.
What Your Ambivalence Is Trying to Tell You
Ever feel torn between two things you want, in equal measure? Maybe you want to stay in a relationship and want to leave it. Maybe you want to quit drinking and aren't sure how to live without it. Ambivalence isn't a sign that something's wrong with you — it's often a sign that two real parts of you are holding two different loyalties. This post explores what inner conflict is actually made of, why we're so quick to escape it, and what becomes possible when we learn to sit with it instead.
When No One Wants to Hear You: On Ego, Growth, and Parenting Teenagers Through the Hard Years
Why don't people want to hear the truth? Often, it's not about the truth at all. It's about the ego — theirs, ours, and everything we're both protecting. A reflection on what gets in the way of being truly known, and what it costs us when we stop trying.
Free Your Mind - Stop Letting Automatic Thoughts Control You
Our minds are powerful, but believing every thought can trap us in stress, self-criticism, and unconscious patterns.
Facing Avoidance: Why We Hide From Ourselves and Others
Avoidance can block growth, strain relationships, and keep us from living fully. Discover how psychotherapy can help you confront what you’ve been avoiding, navigate uncomfortable feelings, and create healthier, more honest connections.
Calm the Waters On the Inside: Strategies for Managing Anxiety
Anxiety is a common experience, often misunderstood and stigmatized. Our past experiences, particularly traumatic ones, shape our present thoughts, but by recognizing these patterns, we can regain control. Instead of viewing anxiety as a flaw, we can see it as a sign urging us to realign with our deeper values, and finally find a home inside ourselves.
Embracing Paradoxes: The Dance of Life
Life is a complex interplay of contrasts. We often find ourselves drifting through life, caught in distractions that pull us away from the present moment, leaving us feeling disconnected and yearning for fulfillment. In embracing the delicate dance of opposites, we discover the essence of being alive by embracing the complexities of life.